I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide |  | Authors: Dorian Solot, Marshall Miller
Publisher: Da Capo Press
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ISBN: 1569242763
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Publication Date: March 22, 2007
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Whether you're celebrating your thousandth female orgasm, searching for your first, or cheering on your girlfriend or wife, women and men across the country agree: I Love Female Orgasm! I Love Female Orgasm is crammed with everything you want to know about the big O, including: -How to have an orgasm during intercourse--and why most women don't
-Directions on finding your way to the G-spot
-Detailed advice on how to have your first orgasm
-Advice for better oral sex
-Tips on surfing waves of multiple orgasms (even if you usually have just one)
-The truth about female ejaculation (yes, it exists!)
-Answers to your questions about vibrators, sex toys, piercings, and more
-The real deal on orgasms for lesbian, bisexual, and queer women
-An entire chapter for men on how to turn her on and get her off, plus tips for partners in every chapter Solot and Miller have spoken to thousands of men and women and surveyed thousands more about their experiences with female orgasm. Here they share all that they've learned--plus give you a sneak peek behind bedroom doors as women and men share their favorite moves, mistakes to avoid, and best "oh, yeah!" moments.
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 Reviewed for Venus Envy by Shannon Pringle September 10, 2007
Shannon Pringle
99 out of 106 found this review helpful
Book Review
I *Heart* Female Orgasm
By Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller
Reviewed by Shannon Pringle for Venus Envy
The cover seduced me. On a simple white background were three black words and one red heart presented with such simple enthusiasm that I was smitten at first sight. The title of the book read I Love Female Orgasm and I thought to myself, "Me too!" I am sure others will agree that this 3-15 seconds of unparalleled rapture is worthy of such a bold declaration.
I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide is a fun, refreshing, demystifying and inclusive tour through the world of the female-bodied orgasm. Whether you are looking to have your first orgasm, are not sure if you have ever had an orgasm, are an orgasm connoisseur, or are a partner wanting to know more about women's orgasm, this book contains a wealth of information for you. There are a number of female orgasm books on the market, but this one captured my interest, beyond its frisky title, for its attempt to be inclusive, in its approach and use of language, of people of diverse genders and sexual orientations. There is just so much knowledge to be gained from people who experience their bodies and desires differently from what you may be accustomed to, and I Love Female Orgasm underlines the similarities in the human sexual experience rather than the differences.
There are always new things to learn, myths to deconstruct, and shame to squelch surrounding women's sexuality, and Solot and Miller take on this challenge. They have included chapters on the psychology and physiology of orgasms, masturbation, cunnilingus, intercourse, the g-spot and female ejaculation, sex toys, men and female orgasm, queer orgasms, [...] play, and safer sex and birth control. Their thoroughness has left me somewhat daunted in how to approach this review, so I am going to write about what I love and learned from I Love Female Orgasm.
I loved learning, in the chapter "The Lowdown on the Big O," that the plateau phase of the female sexual response cycle can sometimes last for what seems like an inordinately long time, but usually, if the arousing stimulation continues, an orgasm can be reached. So for those out there who feel that taking a long time to come somehow means that they are defective, well it just isn't so. Solot's and Miller's section "Eight Lies You May Have Heard About Masturbation" is a refreshing reminder about how persistent these myths are in our culture, despite the advances of sex-positive feminism. And I Love Female Orgasm contains lots of tips on how to masturbate to orgasm for those who are new to it and for those wanting to change up an old routine.
The chapter "Going Down, Down Baby: Oral Sex and Female Orgasm" is great for anyone going down on anyone with a clitoris, especially if you learned about performing oral sex by watching mainstream porn. Mainstream porn, its sexual techniques and angles, are designed to turn on the viewer, not the participants, which makes it a poor example of how to actually get off. For anyone who fears that they don't measure up to today's porn stars, I recommend the "Porn Alert" section for a reminder on what an artificially created and surgically enhanced world it is.
I also appreciated the reminder that although a person may have a sex partner they are still responsible for their own orgasm. This is Slott's and Miller's take-home point from the chapter on intercourse. It's not fair to put the burden of responsibility for your sexual pleasure on your partner, nor to blame them if you don't come. Penetrative intercourse, whether it is with a biological penis or a silicone dildo, is not physically well designed to produce female-bodied orgasms easily. Only 30 percent of female-bodied people will orgasm from intercourse alone; most will need to have some kind of clitoral stimulation to come. This fact of life does not reflect poorly on the receptive partner, the penetrative partner, nor diminish the intimacy of the act, though we have been culturally lead to believe otherwise.
I was delighted to see the two Venus Envy stores mentioned in the chapter of "Vibrators, Toys and Piercings, Oh My!" as part of a handful of North American, women-orientated, educationally based sex shops. The chapter also has some good ideas for including sex toys in partnered sex. Solot and Miller wrap up I Love Female Orgasm with some tips for being a great lover: there's a chapter titled "Let's Here It For The Boys" that is written largely for biological males who have been socialized as males and a great chapter called "Coming with Pride" which includes lesbian sex advice and information about orgasms for transgendered and intersexed folks. I was so pleased to see this last section as it is the first time I have seen this topic in a mainstream sex guide! I Love Female Orgasm was a great read, and many times it made me want to have an orgasm, give someone and orgasm, and buy the tee-shirt!
The best sexual education book I have ever read!! June 26, 2007
Erik J. Hernandez (Harrisonburg, VA)
65 out of 71 found this review helpful
I actually picked up this book not because I was interested in what
it had to say (I thought the book was going to be a joke), but
because the title of the book made me laugh. I flipped through a few
pages and decided that I definitely wanted to read some more into it.
I sat down in a chair with my girlfriend and without even realizing
it, read all of the first chapter. I have to say, I learned more from
the first chapter of your book than I have from all of the books and
websites and references on sexuality that I have ever seen in my
life. I told my girlfriend that I HAD to have the book, so she bought
it for me. I read the entire book over the weekend. I made so many
footnotes, bookmarks, and had so many highlighted passages that it
looked like my college textbooks. I have since shared the books with
my family, friends, and girlfriend, all of whom have loved it. Not
only has it increased my sexual awareness by about a bazillion, it
has also brought my sex life to a whole new level.
Informative and Fun April 17, 2008
tealrose39 (MA, USA)
19 out of 20 found this review helpful
I just received my order of "I <3 Female Orgasm" today, and have been engrossed ever since. The amount of information found in the approximately 300 page book is incredible, as well as incredibly well written. I love the way that when the authors sometimes refer to a certain concept, they will also tell you the page number to get more detail about that concept. They also frequently recommend other books for more information. I also enjoy the wonderful anecdotes and little quotes that are constantly interspersed within the book. I frequently laughed aloud while reading some of the stories. ^_^
This book is an all inclusive book about female sex, not just female orgasm, and is helpful on many levels. If you are the least bit interested in females and sex put together, I definitely recommend this book for you to read and enjoy.
Great book for the new-to-moderately experienced. GENTLEMEN, START HERE. February 25, 2009
T. Hillendahl
13 out of 13 found this review helpful
For women and (especially) men on the quest to better their sex lives, this is the book. On a spree (and after a few hours of research), I bought this along with some Betty Dodson books and Rubel's "Squirms, Screams and Squirts," and I have to say: this was the best--for couples AND singles. I recommend ALL of these books, but if you're on a budget, start here. GENTLEMEN, START HERE: This book has the most detailed information on the G-spot I have found as of yet, and (aside from the aid of your partner) is probably the most likely candidate to help you find it.
Dodson seems to cover more of the psychological side (i.e. getting over inhibitions, etc. to better enjoy your own sexuality), and Rubel's was more of a specific "how-to" book (great for ideas, not always medically accurate); Solot and Miller's was a nice mix between the two, medically accurate and laid out in a very reader-oriented style. No slogging through 30-page, under- or over-detailed chapters in novel-sized print.
Happy reading.
Long overdue! May 24, 2007
Kate (NC, USA)
27 out of 31 found this review helpful
An excellent resource for both men and women! Well-written and very readable, this book is a very modern and comprehensive reference on female sexuality. It is open and nonjudgmental while providing a plethora of solid information in a very conversational, non-threatening format that also manages to not be terribly overwhelming. I've recommended it to several of my patients who have all come back with nothing but lavish praise.
I particularly recommend this book in conjunction with The Survivor's Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse for women who are healing from childhood sexual abuse or assault.
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